Gone Fishin’

We’re about a month into the endless days of summer. I love summer! I love the long days, the heat, Puffy White Cloud Days! The lack of routine and freedom that comes along with it. No homework, no schedule. Catching fireflies, roasting marshmallows, trips to the library and no bedtime.  This is my best season. (Well, this and Christmas.)
In summers past, we’ve allowed the days to unfold and see what adventures would arise with them. But this year we thought it best to try to provide a little more structure. (At least Daddy-O thought it best for all involved if there were a little more structure.)  🙂
So we registered the boyz for a few camps.  Camps today are not what I remember camps being in my childhood.  Back in my day, you went away to summer camp.  My variety was Girl Scout Camp where I did horseback riding and stayed in tents for two weeks each summer. Today, many camps are really glorified day care.  Every small business out there is clamoring for the “Summer Camp” dollar and suburbanites are flocking.  We tried to be selective in the camps we chose so that they weren’t all day so we would still have a half day of free time to have unprogrammed playtime, but also so they weren’t stuck with a bunch of kids feeling like they were in day care.  I mean, I’m a stay at home mom.    I don’t need full day camps to entertain my kids. That’s my job! 🙂
Week one, we were invited to Aunt Susie’s cabin for “Grandma Camp” and then we spent a few days at the lake making for a great first week of summer. Week two, we had a golf camp and our extended family was in town for a week of non-stop summer fun. Week three we had registered them for a “Worship Arts Camp” at our church.
According to the brochure, it was to be a week long camp where each camper would have the option of set design, costuming, lighting, tech crew, cast, dance team or chorus and at the end of the week they would put on a production of all their collective talents.  This sounded appealing – especially the set design part, so we signed the older boys up.  It was a bit long – starting at 9 a.m. and going until 3:30 p.m. (I learned pick up was at 3:30p.m. after racing across town peeling into the parking lot at 3:03 p.m. out of breath thinking pick up was at 3:00 p.m.!) (WHEW! for me but Whew! For them…. long day!)
I could tell by their faces at pick up that it had been a long day.  Even the way they had them all corralled into separate classrooms seemed a bit too “structured” for my thoughts of camp, but we’re trying something new here.
The boys informed me they were in the “rhythm” class and it was all about keeping the beat. But really, they had their hearts set on set design and the camp had skipped a beat.
It ends up they were already pre-assigned to “rhythm” – which I guess means percussion? for the whole week.  The schedule they followed for the first day was to be the schedule for the remainder of the week.
The boys were underwhelmed.  
And the thing I love about my husband is that although we had paid a registration fee to attend the camp, upon hearing how underwhelmed they were with day one, we truly LISTENED to our children. 
We decided to opt out for the remainder of the week and I took all the boyz to the lake for the rest of the week!

The camp director was confused when I kindly and as gently as possible told her that the boyz woudn’t be returning. And she was completely dumbfounded when I said “I think they would just rather be outside.”

But that’s the advantage we have. We’re a little bit country – a little bit rock and roll. And having a place in the country gives us the best of both worlds.  
I wish I could say that first thing the next morning we were packed and headed to the lake. But packing for five while they play (read: fight) and undo what I’m doing is an aggravating undertaking. Many hours and several threats later, we were loaded and heading south.

Papa TJ was quite surprised when we showed up. He was planning to have a productive few days  and enjoy the peace and quiet. Boy did we spoil those plans! But he joyfully embraced our rambunctious crew and helped me corral and entertain them for the next three days.  He sings silly songs and baits hooks and calls them “rabble rousers” and “whippersnappers” while he drives them on the tractor and teaches them how to use the log splitter.
Yea, the lake was a much better plan than Worship Arts Camp.
I couldn’t help but think of the old fashioned signs you would see hanging on store front windows “Gone Fishin’” Cause that’s what we’d done.
In fact, Papa had to run to the bait store on the third day to get another container of worms we’d fished through two tubs-o-worms already!
Then he had an errand to run with tractor-loving Carter and he took him with him to go pick out a new trailer. This was mecca for Carter!  It was no surprise when they returned three hours later that they picked out a John Deere green colored trailer!
But in his absence, I was left to bait hooks and manage the fishermen.  Let me just say that although I’ve grown up around a lake my whole life, I strongly dislike fishing.  In fact, I detest it.  
Growing up my Grandfather, Papa Russell, who built the lake and after whom the lake is named, used to love to fish. In fact, that was what got him into the whole lake building endeavor.  I can remember a few times as a little girl that he would take me and my sister and our two cousins out in his old fishing boat to take us fishing with him.  
He was a skillful fisherman and would yank them out one after the other.  His famous saying was “Oh, how they tug and pull!” (Said with much emphasis while hauling in the big one.)  
I, on the other hand, would get restless sitting and waiting for something to take even a nibble on my hook.  In fact, most the time, I think my line would end up tangled in a tree.  But he would teach all of us Lamb grandkids that the secret to fishing was a little Lamb spit.  You had to hack a luggey on the end of your fishing line and spit on the worm.  This too, I was no good at and spit would dribble down my chin.  I was hopeless as a fisherwoman.
But somehow, the fishing gene has skipped a generation and is avid among the Lamb great-grandkids.  My nephew, Jackson has had great success and has hooked “The Big’on” more than once!  Catching other fishing enthusiasts in his wake.  
Kiefer, especially.  
Honestly, before having Kiefer, I never realized there is actual skill in fishing.  In my own experience, I saw fishing as more a sport of luck.  Bait, cast, wait… maybe get lucky. But most the time, in my case, those elusive fish would mysteriously snatch my worm and hours later I’d reel in an empty hook.  
Not Kiefer. He stands on the side of the dock and yanks one out after the other.  He watches, like a hunting dog, for just the right moment and then seizes the opportunity and reels in with gusto at just the right moment usually nabbing a good sized sunfish, croppy or bass on the line.

He rightfully has worked his way up to using an open reel fishing pole, much to the dislike of his younger brothers still confined to their closed reels. He also “inherited” Papa Russell’s tackle box. Not sure how he was so fortunate, but Kiefer’s an opportunistic 8 year old and he saw a vacancy so he moved his tackle into a larger space. Where most tackle boxes have one pull out shelf and a few slots for a variety of hooks, worms, bobbers and weights, his is an industrial sized multi-tiered hard cased tackle box that holds nearly 1000 different baits and would make even the professional fishermen jealous.

It certainly is the envy of his two younger brothers who have caught the fishing bug, too.  They spend their evenings and rainy days re-organizing their tackle boxes and I didn’t realize until this trip that they actually NAME their baits.  Or at least Griffin does.
His red and white torpedo shaped bait with two deathly looking hooks he calls “IU” because it’s half red, half white and it has two eyes.  Kiefer calls his green frog bait “Squishy, Foamy Frog” and Fletcher likes anything with glitter and feathers.
Occasionally they have success with the fake bait, but the typical preferred fish fare are worms. Live worms. Live, dirty, squirmy worms.  Live, dirty, squirmy worms that Mommy has to help them bait. YUCK!
Kiefer is all over it and has baited his own hook for a few years now. Atta’ boy! Griffin? Not so much.  He won’t even touch the worms.  He’s never liked to get his hands dirty and I’ve caught him eating a sandwich off his plate so he didn’t have to touch it so you can imagine how unsuccessful the prospects of his self-sufficiency with baiting his own hook. 

But I was taught if you want to ski, you’ve got to carry your own skis.  So this mom of four boys believes that if you want to fish, you can bait your own hook.


After about a half hour of him trying to flick the worm out of the tub and have it fly onto the hook on it’s own, I finally succumbed and helped him impail the slimy critter on there.
Before we had kids, I would occasionally go “golfing” with Jim.  A perfect day of golf for me was riding in the cart with him and reading a book while he golfed.  
Likewise, I was enjoying a perfect morning of fishing with the boyz while they fished and I was engrossed in a good book.  It was such a page turner I hardly cared to take my eyes away while I hooked another worm.  
I could tell I wasn’t paying enough attention when Griffin caught the roof of the pontoon boat. But hey, it happens. At least it wasn’t his brother’s eyelid.  Then I looked down and noticed that all the worms were making a run for it while the boyz had left the lid off the container. The night crawlers were literally crawling out of the tub and escaping!  Kiefer solved that problem by putting the lid to the pretzels on top of the worms.  Great problem-solving skills, that one.
All said, they had a successful day of fishing. Somehow Fletcher even caught two fish at once. Or he hadn’t released the other one by the time he yanked the next one out of the water.  Either way, we called it a twofer.
Yea, I can see why people would escape their workplaces for a spell to be “gone fishin’…  sometimes it’s all the worship arts you need.

Grandma Camp

The first week of summer we went to “Grandma Camp” with Jim’s Aunt Susie at her cabin in the woods.  It was phenomenal! She and a girlfriend of hers both bring their grandkids and they put on a half-week of non-stop, old-fashioned, out in the woods, back-country fun! We went creek stompin’, fishing, hiking, animal foot print tracking, paddle boating, and canoeing. And intermittently the boys went ‘tetter-totting on her commercial grade teeter totter, where countless injuries occurred – but hey, that’s part of camp!

We sang songs each night and put on a talent show – complete with prizes! (Thanks to Aunt Susie!) We found bucket loads full of Geodes in the creek and smashed them with hammers for hours, we also painted other large flat brownstone we took from the river that made wonderful pallets for young artists.  We hiked in the woods with our hand-carved and painted walking sticks that Susie had given the kids for Christmas, each with a different animal as the handle. We did a nature scavenger hunt finding treasures in God’s creation and we did a treasure hunt searching for clues to find a hidden treasure.  We roasted marshmallows each night and we made “Hobo dinners”which entailed each child making a tinfoil pouch with veggies, cheese and hamburger meat that we broiled and savored. We ate each meal on the screened porch and Aunt Susie (aka Grandma Susie to some) had marked shuffle board course on the smooth deck of the porch and man on man combat shuffle board contests ensued (at least from my children!)  Who knew shuffle board to be a combat sport?!?

Aunt Susie didn’t object when Carter was begging to use her push mower to mow the grass. By the time we left he had mowed her whole dam and the grass on the drive on the way in.

Grandma Carol brought a recipe for magic bubbles that included corn syrup which made the bubbles extra large and more durable so you could actually catch them in your hands. Some were mesmerized for at least an hour with that magical activity! Others teeter tottered the time away but enjoyed their own fun.

And really, that was the whole point – to just have fun. Meals were effortless, songs slipped off the tongue, bedtimes were strictly dismissed and the only rule was no electronics allowed.

I told Susie, I don’t know how we’ve been so fortunate to be included in this special memory making week she does for her grandkids for the third time straight, but I’m so grateful that we are!  A new sign she bought in the local town gift shop that was hanging by her back door provided the answer. It read “Nana’s House – where cousins come to become best friends!”

These are special memories that I know all these children will cherish for years to come! I know I will!

And it’s also a mental note of the kind of Grandma I want to be in the future!  One who creek stomps and giggles and creates an atmosphere of fun because that’s where memories are made!

Fore!

My husband is a pretty good golfer and lately he’s been working on his game a little more.  I’m a pathetic golfer! I took lessons with a sorority sister shortly after Jim and I were married and the instructor laughed when he said, “Show me your swing” and we thought he meant dancing! Oh, and we learned the hard way that you’re supposed to strap in your golf clubs into the cart before you pull away from the clubhouse! Yea, they got a laugh out of those sorority girls!  I haven’t really hit the links since!  But we decided that with four boyz – we’ve got a built in foursome so it’s time for them to learn the game of golf. (Who knows, maybe I’ll take lessons again sometime!?)

We signed them up for a week long “golf camp” at a local 3-par course called “ShorTees”. Appropriately named all around. I had to talk the owner into letting us “play up” and have Griffin and Fletcher join the older boyz since they were younger. The “little linkers” in the 4-6 year old age group were to play for just an hour were the “Junior Linkers” ages 7-14 were able to play for two hours.

I was at the window to the golf shack telling the older gentleman how grown up and well behaved my 6 and almost 5 year old were while Fletcher was literally climbing the wall to get to the bucket of golf balls on the countertop! He was mid-fit when I handed him a ShorTees pencil in an attempt to distract him but the fit escalated and he was proving himself “Little Linkers” worthy, if even that?  For some reason that I’ve yet to understand, the guy agreed to let them all be in the junior level class. (Maybe because it cost a little more money?)  We’ll call it grace.

Our cousins from California were coming to town that same week so they signed up to join us, too.

The week actually turned out to be a really great week and after some coaching not to make divots on the green, Fletcher held his own and even made par on a few holes!  Kiefer made par a few times, too. Griffin, although a bit more unpredictable in the direction his ball would fly, really enjoyed it, too.

Three fourths of my kids enjoyed it. The oldest wasn’t completely inspired by the game, but he saw it through and hopefully someday will appreciate that we made him learn the game of golf. If not for the social aspects, at least he can appreciate the well manicured greens and dream about the tractors and lawn mowers that manicured the grass so perfectly.

The golf camp happened to occur the same week of Fletcher’s fifth birthday. It was charming that the old men who put on the camp led everyone in song to wish our little linker a happy birthday and you know what he got as a gift? That ding dang golf ball that he was having a fit about the day we registered!

I guess that’s the advantage of turning from Fore to Five during golf camp!

Our Crew Plus Two and the Patient Golf Pro “Coach” 

Kiefer putts while Noah and Carter look on

Griffin selects his club while Fletcher’s old man stance shows the seriousness of the game

Fletcher – FORE!

Got to carry your own clubs! (Backpack cases make it so much easier!)

Kiefer – a natural!

Fletcher approaches the ball

He swings…

And misses!

Griffin takes a swing

And misses…

and misses again…

Needs a little coaching…

Carter, with the bigger kids…. got it to the green but claimed it took him 23 tries to make his putt. (Golf is a test of patience, for sure!)

Uncle Mark provides some hands on coaching assistance

And he makes contact!

Now they’re off to find their balls!

Carter & Kiefer

Mark & Noah

Hannah, Kiefer & Carter (Kiefer wanted to wear his plaid “golf shorts”)

Our Little Linkers!

Step Into Narnia, If You Dare!

Fletcher’s our only summer birthday amongst the Jay Boyz.  This past winter, I started collecting Olaf themed items for his birthday party, thinking how funny it would be to have a Snowman themed birthday party in the middle of summer – and the song Olaf sings dreaming about summer.  I even had the boyz make snowballs from the last snow of the season and I had been storing them in my freezer!

But Fletcher wouldn’t have any of it! He wanted a Narnia party. He’d even assigned his classmates to the characters. Henry could be Edmund, “because he has dark hair”; Madison could be Lucy; Sterling could be a knight and Eva could be the White Witch, “because she’s tall.” (I love it that he’s completely disregarding that she is adopted from Africa and has the darkest most beautiful skin).  He, was going to be “King Peter” -“’cause he’s the biggest and bravest” amongst the Narnian Royalty.

He was so convincing that when June 10th rolled around, I’d completely scrapped my idea of an Olaf  Party and I was on board with the Narnia theme.  I mean, seriously, be still my heart! I was the one who introduced him to Narnia two years ago when we were snowbound during a blizzard and read the book cover to cover in one day! Then the next day we made homemade Turkish Delight!

Invitations were sent to our extended family, including our cousins who were going to be in town from California – rare guests at our family birthday celebrations.  And the gauntlet was laid to “wear costumes, if you dare.”

We were mid way through the 12-hour process of making Turkish Delight the day before his birthday when I realized I only had a 1/2 teaspoon left of Almond Extract and needed a full teaspoon. Why go to the store for one item when we have neighbors? I picked up the phone and called our next door neighbor, Karen.  They’re empty nesters and adore our children. (or at least tolerate them!) Their only grandson is a year younger than Fletcher and lives in California, so I think they get a kick out of our kids. At least I hope they do.  Anyhow, she was home and had some I could use so I went over.

When she asked what I was making I told her it was for Turkish Delight – and the conversation unfolded from there. Both her sons are in California in the movie business. The oldest produces movies you’ll never see and the middle son does illustrations,  graphic design and animation for movies. He actually created Aslan the Lion for the first Narnia movie – the most life-like, amazing, talking, breathing, walking animated lion. It’s so lifelike she said the producers at Sony asked to see the hand-drawn version after watching his work. Even they were convinced! (But if you notice in the subsequent movies, Aslan looks a little off? That’s because they didn’t use her son to do the animation!)

As we were chatting the boyz had found me and they were running around both our yards now, and picked up sticks to use as swords. That gave me an idea and I asked her if I could use a really big limb that had fallen to make a forest in my entryway.

It snowballed from there. Then she asked if I wanted to use her Christmas trees.  Mine was the type you had to assemble, hers she keeps upright covered in a sheet in her storage room.  How could I refuse? Then she asked if I needed anything else.  “Got a fur coat?” I asked. I’d already borrowed my mom’s and was hoping to find at least one more to make a coat rack full of coats you had to walk through from our front door/wardrobe entrance.  She said sarcastically, “Do I have a fur coat?” and she went to the other room and wheeled a rolling coat rack of four fur coats around the corner! She even loaned me white sheets and a few tiaras! Oh my goodness! Fletcher’s party was instantly taking shape! It pays to ask your neighbor to borrow some almond extract!

I did my magic and Griffin and Fletcher helped me make it snow while Carter started attacking some Styrofoam cups to make snowflakes. I even saw a few coffee filters fall from the sky, too. It was quite a storm! A few moments later, Daddy-O walked in after being at a meeting for a few hours. If you miss a few hours around here you miss a lot.  He was as shocked as Lucy when she backed into Narnia the first time!

Meanwhile, Carter was helping me cut some cardboard boxes to make a lantern and Kiefer was thrilled to watch me spray paint it black in the backyard.

We couldn’t help but notice how Griffin kept walking out the garage door and coming back in through the front door to walk through the fur coats and into Narnia again and again. He must have done it 20 times!

I pointed out to Jim, THIS is why I do all this.  It IS Narnia to them.

I love taking and idea and making it come alive and watching their imaginations come alive with it!

I scrambled to make a sheet cake, ice it, make dinner, put the finishing touches on Turkish Delight, set the tables for 24 people and create another Narnia in our sun room where the kids could eat at their own table.  I got it all mostly done – all except getting myself ready. It’s hard to do anything while chasing four little kids and refereeing their scuffles.  It’s all about tradeoffs. Do you want an iced cake or me dressed and ready? You can’t have both on time.

My family was the first to arrive – dressed as lions in homemade costumes and knights carrying trash can lids as their shields.  My mom saying, “You enjoy it more when you get into it!”  Thanks, Mom and TJ.  You always pretend right along with me!

They were a bit surprised to see me dressed in my running garb still wearing my baseball hat.  I joked that they had arrived so early! It was 5:59. The party was to start at 6 p.m.

I dashed upstairs to change clothes and make my appearance as the White Witch.  I was pleased that Fletcher was asking me to be Susan instead of the White Witch, because “Susan’s nice, and the White Witch is mean.” I was relieved to know that he still thinks I’m nice.  (There are days when I’m more White Witch than I’d like to admit!)

The only white dress I have is my wedding dress. Kiefer has asked me to try it on to show him before, which I’ve done. Except four babies later, my rib cage has expanded and I can’t zip it up to the top. I also didn’t really feel like wearing my wedding gown to a party where I was doing the cooking and planning to serve barbecue, so I opted for a silver dress I’d worn to a Christmas party a few years ago – and I donned one of my neighbors amazing fur coats that was white (and a tiara!) and “Wallah!”

I raced outside before the kids saw me and rang the doorbell until they would let me in.  Carter had seen a glimpse of me and was in full-on pretend mode and wasn’t going to let me in.  My knight in shining armor of a husband eventually unlocked the door and I finally made my entrance into Narnia.

I chased after the little ones saying I was going to freeze them if I caught them. That’s when I was tackled from the side by a 10 year old (who knows better).  If it would have been on video, I’m sure it would have won the award on “America’s Funniest Home Videos” because out of nowhere this child side swiped me like he was doing a cannon ball. But as his mother, and not the White Witch, I didn’t find it funny. He takes pretending too far sometimes and was out of control.  My knight came to the rescue again and took care of that problem and then it was time to celebrate.

Parties at our house are always kind of crazy. It’s hard being the caterer, the photographer, the set designer, props coordinator, hostess with the mistress, videographer and mother of the birthday boy all at the same time. (Not to mention disciplinarian for those in need)  Thus is the life of a mom.  At least this mom.

All said, I think the birthday boy had himself a good time at his fifth birthday party.  The only problem was he kept asking me what time his friends were going to arrive.

Walk through the wardrobe into our land of Narnia…
Part the furs….
And see a glimpse of our magical land…
All guests are welcome….
It’s always winter here, never Christmas…
But the lamp post is always burning…

And cheerful knights are there to greet you!
(Four of them, in fact!)

His Cake….

The White Witch’s “Temptation Station” complete with hot cocoa, and all things white including: marshmallows, chocolate covered pretzels, chocolate covered raisins, white powdered doughnuts, ice blue bubble gum balls and the piece de resistance – Turkish Delight, made by the hands of the White Witch, herself!

Even a good knight will succumb to the temptation…

Evidence!

Beware of the White Witch, in all her glory
(Wearing her neighbor’s white fur!)

The birthday boy receiving his gifts

When the Narnia music began the battle ensued… 

Watch out for King Peter, he’s quick with the sword!

Present time!!

Ripping into the gifts

Very excited…

Gigi as Aslan looks on at her pride as he opens her gift…

Nana & Gigi watch

We sing Happy Birthday to the Birthday boy

Happy Birthday, Big Guy!

Happy Birthday big guy!

No, seriously, don’t lick the cake!!

Donning his new suit of armor he got as a birthday gift!

Drawing the wardrobe door

Aslan and Fletcher and Me

Aslan and Fletcher

Big brother Kiefer helping to make a draw bridge on the cardboard castle

wardrobe door into the sunroom

The beginning of Turkish Delight

A few hours later…

The snowstorm in my front hallway

Griffin made it snow!

Griffin came in the front door at least 20 times to enter Narnia again and again!

The wonder of childhood makes it all worthwhile!

LOVE!

Meanwhile, Fletcher was busy coloring his crown

Almost perfect now.  Note the permanent marker on the hardwoods! 🙂

Carter helped me make the lantern

A few hours later, Fletcher taste testing the Turkish Delight, wearing his crown… 🙂

Fletcher tested and approved!

12 hours later it was ready, sorta

Aslan in spring time

Fletcher first thing in the morning on his Birthday!
(woke up and put on his Knight costume and crown first thing!)

Next thing he did was check the Turkish Delight

Birthday breakfast: pancake with a candle in it

Mom’s to do list

Taste testing the Turkish Delight

little fingers

Big bite

Hmmmm?

He likes it!!

Kiefer trying on all the fur coats!

What do you think of this one?

Yes?

I made arrows for fruit skewers!

Fletcher used them as daggers 

Sword fighting with fruit skewers – is his mom crazy or what?

Fletcher=Arrow Fetcher
The kids table in the springtime Narnia

“Once a King or Queen of Narnia, always a king or queen of Narnia”

“Aslan, you look bigger.”

“Each year that you grow, I grow bigger also.”

The White Witch’s table

The gifts for the King

Arrow Head Fruit Kabobs

The kid’s table
Mom and Fletcher

Fierce Fletcher; double swords

Don’t lick the cake…

No, Seriously, don’t lick the cake.

Smile!!

The White Witch

Aslan and her knight in shining armor, complete with trash can lid shield 

Sweet Kiefer!
Come again!!!
(If you dare!)

Let Them Be Little

So we had another milestone in the Jay Family: Griffin, our six and a half year old, graduated from Kindergarten. It’s been an amazing year of transformation for him. He entered into Kindergarten with a full set of baby teeth and not knowing how to read and he’s graduating without any front teeth and he’s not only able to read but also able to write stories!  Not to mention, we  measured him on the last day of school and he’s grown three inches since the first day of school back in August!  Amazing transformation indeed!

Much credit is due to his teacher, who created such a positive learning environment for him each and every day where they were encouraged and cheered on to higher ground every day. She also noticed early in the fall that his darling lisp that I found so cute was causing him some phonics troubles so she addressed that early and we’ve seen great progress! In fact, to reward his great achievements, she nominated him to represent their class in saying the Pledge of Allegiance during their graduation ceremony.  At the beginning of the year this would have been the “Pwedge of Awwegence” but not so in May. He stood up front in his cap and gown, hand over his heart and recited the “Pledge of Allegiance” loud and clear. So proud!

I sat on my perch from the school gym bleachers and used my telephoto lens to snap as many pictures as I could!  But the one that gets me is of his sweet little suede shoes that still don’t touch the ground!  It reminds me of the morning of graduation, getting him ready  – which entails snuggling with him and singing numerous renditions of good morning songs until he’s not quite so grumpy. (we did this every day this year!)  Then slowly dragging him out of bed and helping him (read dragging him) to get dressed.  I had laid out dress pants, a nice blue collared button down shirt, a spring tie, leather belt, dress socks and his suede shoes.  He was objecting to the tie and wasn’t too keen on the belt.  He had in mind that he was going to wear his class t-shirt with the self-portraits of his whole class and the sports shorts he wore to field day earlier that week.  It took some convincing, with help from Dad and his older brothers (because they hold more weight than mom’s opinion) until he reluctantly gave in to wearing “church clothes” but still refused to wear a tie. Ok. I know how to choose my battles.  No tie.  As I was helping him with his belt loops, his sweet dress belt, that Papa bought him this past fall, wrapped all the way around to the middle of his back!  But he looked so nice. So handsome, and grown up.  I tied his shoes and invited him to race me downstairs to join me for breakfast… and I led the way down the hallway to the kitchen.

But the sound of his cry echoed down the hallway and I spun around to head toward the graduate only to find him crumpled in a puddle on the floor of his room.  Crying because his “shoes were too tight and he couldn’t move his toes!”  “Oh dear!” I said!  Laughing to myself that this will be a very different scene at his future graduations. I rummaged around the closet and found the hand me down shoes from big brother Kiefer that were part of what Griffin called his “uniform” from other “church clothes” events like Christmas.  Gosh, he’s growing fast!  But his sweet little suede shoes still didn’t touch the gym floor as he sat in his cap and gown for graduation.   I was fine during the whole graduation ceremony… until they pulled down the screen to show the slide show of pictures from the year AND played a perfectly wonderful country song called “Let Them Be Little” by Billy Dean

I can remember when you fit in the palm of my hand
Felt so good in it, no bigger than a minute
How it amazes me, you’re changing with every blink
Faster than a flower blooms they grow up all too soon


So let them be little ’cause they’re only that way for a while
Give them hope, give them praise, give them love every day
Let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle
Oh just let them be little


I’ve never felt so much in one little tender touch
I live for those kisses, prayers and your wishes
Now that you’re teaching me things only a child can see
Every night while we’re on our knees all I ask is please


Let them be little ’cause they’re only that way for a while
Give them hope, give them praise, give them love every day
Let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle
Oh just let them be little


So innocent, a precious soul, you turn around
It’s time to let them go


So let them be little ’cause they’re only that way for a while
Give them hope, give them praise, give them love every day
Let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle
Oh just let them be little


Let them be little

… And the tears started to flow at the first line: I can remember when you fit in the palm of my hand.  Then it goes on and he sings, “Give them hope, give them praise, give them love every day… let them cry, let them giggle, let them sleep in the middle… oh just let them be little.”

I couldn’t say it better myself. Maybe that’s why the tears flow – even now – as I read these lyrics.  I want to give them hope.  I want to give them praise.  I want to give them love – every day!  And I’m afraid I’m not doing it!   I’m trying… but the days fly by so fast… I just want to hold them. I want to stop time and keep them right where they are.  Not let them outgrow any more shoes.  I just want to giggle together and let them sleep in the middle!  

I’m so thankful for the teachers who helped him grow and achieve so much this year!  But I’m also so thankful that I’m not just his teacher.  I’m so thankful I get to be his mom!  I really want to hold onto these days, that are now unfolding into summer.  I don’t want it to pass too quickly, either.  I want to catch lightening bugs and roast marshmallows, sing songs and tell stories, make crafts and read books, bake cookies and cuddle.  I want to go on bike rides and climb trees.  I want to fill our house with joy and music and energy.  (No shortage of that around the Jay house!)

But above all, I want to let them be little.

The graduates parade in while pomp and circumstance is played… Griffin is second in line in this picture (trying not to smile or act like he sees me!) 

Griffin is on far right, hand over heart saying the “Pledge of Allegiance”

Third one in, waiting to be called up to receive his “Diploma”

Let Them Be Little!!!

Singing a sweet song, “Thank you, Mom” and he looked right at me!!

Hand motions to the song… “Thank you, Mom, for loving me,
all your love helps me to grow, thank you mom, I love, you, so!” 

Our toothless graduate!!!

Griffin and his teacher, Mrs. Tester

All the shining stars of his graduating class!

Our star!!!

His cheering section

Griffin’s selfie 🙂

Other selfie, this one is smiling! 🙂 Toothless!!!

Goofing around!! 🙂

“Oh, mom, aren’t you staying for the all class picnic?”… (First I’d heard of it!) “Of course I am!!”

Us at the picnic!!

“Mom, will you push me on the swings?” … “Of course I will!!”
(Note: Griffin’s wearing the self portrait class t-shirt and sports shorts post graduation!)

Let them be little!!!

Blankie Hunt

Each of my boys has had a beloved blankie that they’ve clung to.  Some more than others.  Kiefer loved his so much he loved the ‘taggie’ off of it and would snuffle a string that was literally the last thread of his taggie.  Carter declared himself a big boy the night of his fifth birthday and folded his neatly under his bed and has never returned to it.  Kiefer was more like Linus from Peanuts and would literally drag his blankie everywhere he went until he started school. It was his best friend, his most treasured companion, and his favorite toy.  He could sit for hours and suck his thumb and snuff his blankie while watching a movie, watching the clouds roll by or watching his brothers play.  He was evenutally bribed into retiring his by the orthodontist and I was impressed with his willpower and determination to win the movie passes and ice cream gift card rewards!  Griffin has a normal relationship with his blankie and he likes to cover himself up with his “blankie” at bedtime or snuggle first thing in the morning. And Fletcher is more like Kiefer (in many ways) but in that he, too, is a thumb sucker and is quite fond of his blankie.

With each beloved blankie there are occasional mishaps where they turn up missing. Normally, we make the rounds and go on what we call “A Blankie Hunt” complete with the made up song of the modified “Going on a Bear Hunt” and the culprit, I mean,  the blankie seeker, typically rides on my back while we hunt and sing the song.  After a few investigative searches in the same unusual hiding places, we’ve typically been able to recover the sought after blankie and continued with life as usual. However, Fletcher’s blankie seems to be the most elusive.  A few weeks ago, he lost it overnight!  A travesty for a blankie devotee!  We had searched everywhere, at least twice! Inside the oven, under the couch, inside pots and pans, in the back of the toy closet in the basement, in his bathtub – you name it. We couldn’t find it anywhere! We even offered a reward, thinking reverse psychology if a brother had made the mistake of hiding it, perhaps he could at least be motivated to help recover it.  But to no avail. Daddy-O and I both were racking our brains to try to figure out where he had stashed it. Finally, Daddy-O found it underneath the bed in the guest room in the basement. Whew! Disaster evaded. (Ding dang Blankiety Blank!)

But now, a few weeks later, he’s done it again. We’re going on 48 hours of the missing blankie. We’re about to call in the F.B.I.  It’s baby blue with his worn off monogram and a well loved satin ribbon edge.  Used to be crib sized, now it won’t cover his feet when he lies flat, so it must be approximately 40″ in length.  The day it disappeared, we stayed home all day!  It’s lost somewhere in this house!  Again, we’ve gone on our typical blankie hunt – and we’ve even looked in the unusual places. A reward has just been warranted… and prayers have been lifted up on it’s behalf.  Oh, please, Lord, let it turn up soon!

After another thorough search and rescue mission where I scoured every inch of this place, starting from the top down. Each room I’d turn up empty handed and I’d exit saying “Clear” the way they do on all the police shows. When I finally reached the basement, I was beginning to lose hope and growing increasingly concerned that it had accidentally gone out with the trash yesterday. But thankfully, it was found underneath the couch cushions in the basement!  I know I’ll sleep better! And I bet a little someone else will, too!

Kiefer and his beloved blankie, age 2 1/2

Kiefer loving on his taggie (when it still existed)

Kiefer!

Kiefer!!

My favorite picture of Carter wrapped in his blankie when they were both new! 🙂 Age 1 week

Fletcher at the lake wrapped in his beloved blankie which once was lost but now is found! Summer 2014

Kiefer doing his favorite thing – laying on the floor with his blankie (note the silly socks!)

Fletcher after bath time… he’ll hate this one someday! 🙂

And this one, too!

Kiefer even met Santa with his blankie! And then he shared it with Santa! Too sweet!

Kiefer could be found just about anywhere with his blankie!

Mimi holding Griffin, she gave him his cream blankie as a welcome gift

Kiefer in the car with his blankie

Kiefer riding in the ‘hay wagon’ with Carter with his blankie!

Kiefer on a walk in Meridian Kessler to go see the ducks with his blankie

Griffin wrapped in his cream blankie!

Griffin with his blankie!

Too cute of Kiefer with his blankie!

Mimi holding Griffin the week before she died… 🙁

Kiefer!
Everyone with their blankies sleeping in the tent in our basement

Fletcher and his blankie at his second birthday!

Fletcher wrapped his blankie around his head -a common occurrence!

Kiefer!!
My two thumb suckers and blankie devotees  – one of the last pictures of Kiefer in this pose as he quit the habit soon after – such a big boy!

Griffin twisted like a pretzel with napping with his blankie!

Re-Entry

Daddy-O wisely knows that “If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy” and so to counteract that domino affect, once a year, he whisks me away to the beach for a couple’s get away trip – just the two of us. (Good boy, huh?!)  
Typically in the dead of winter, when you feel like you can’t take another day of gray skies or bitter cold temperatures, we hop on a jet plane headed to the Caribbean to defrost, see the sun and enjoy a week-long, uninterrupted date night.  It’s paradise – in more ways than one!
This year, I’m spoiled enough to report that we escaped to Aruba for a week on the beach, some SCUBA diving, and a week of dining out and not having to do the dishes! Our only worry was in regards to our tan lines and how frequently to re-apply sunscreen.
We touched base, via FaceTime, with the boyz each night who were left in the care of my mother-in-law, who bravely volunteers for Grandma duty each year allowing us to escape,as she remembers what it was like raising four children of her own. The video chats are usually brief and always hilarious! Seeing their world for a few moments- MY WORLD – through a 10 inch screen is comical from 4,000 miles away!  Fletcher’s hair was standing up on both his cowlicks last night, and Griffin’s loose tooth is hanging by a thread, Kiefer showed us his new boo-boo and Carter made faces and nods to report that school went well.  Life as usual.
We chatted the last night of our trip right at bedtime and we hit the hay shortly thereafter. (Holding down a beach chair all day can really wear you out!)  I woke with a start the next morning – the dawn of our last day of Island living – to report to Daddy-O that I’d had a nightmare!
I’d dreamt that it was snowy and freezing at home and they boyz had just come in from sledding and playing in the snow and I was walking around our family room and kitchen area and I kept tripping over snowpants, coats, hats, gloves and four pairs of boots. I made a huge pile of all their gear and was gently telling them (ok, I admit, I was yelling – even in my dream!) “Why can’t you guys hang up your stuff on the way in the door?!” Right then, the doorbell rang to the garage door and they took off running before I could stop them, the door was open, letting in the arctic winds, then the garage door opened where I saw my mother-in-law in her car returning something or telling us something (this is where the details get a little hazy) but before I could stop them all four of the little men raced out the door in their socks and they were running around the back yard in the snow in their socked feet without any coats on….!
That’s when I woke up! Half frightened, half laughing – because it’s so typical of our daily lives!  Not one detail is an exaggeration!
When I re-told the story to Daddy-O, that’s when he said, “This sounds like re-entry!”  
As I type, I’m sitting in the airport in Aruba, depressed to be leaving, feeling my tan fade already… I’m gearing up.  Ladies and gentleman, fasten your seat belts! Re-entry commences at 0600.
AMENDMENT:
Upon our return and once the boyz awoke, and, as Jim said, after we water-boarded the boyz to get the full report from them, we came to understand that my dream was just the beginning of the nightmare!   Basically, they had their A-game on for Nana! (And I’m pretty sure they ran circles around her all week!)
Let’s see, what counterintelligence we’ve gathered thus far:

  • Carter wore his new John Deere T-shirt and sweatshirt that he got for his birthday EVERY day to school and REFUSED to let Nana wash it.
  • When Carter wanted “Alone Time” he crawled up on top of the refrigerator in the basement to be ‘alone’ – not once, but TWICE! 
  • Nana “ran the boyz” on the treadmill everyday after school because it was such frigid temperatures they couldn’t be outside. Only problem was Kiefer didn’t wear the safety clip and he fell and was thrown into the cement wall and then burned his arm on the treadmill… YIKES!
  • Judging on the items I found put up high – they were juggling my weighted exercise balls, they climbed up in the locker room to get down swords I’d already hidden and they had been playing the Saxoflute.
  • Carter and Kiefer either got the key down or talked Nana into letting them into the craft room where they painted. Sounds innocent enough except Carter used some of my spare wood from an old fence that I had and he constructed and painted John Deere sign. (I had other intentions for the wood) Then he painted it with Acrylic paint getting the permanent paint on his clothes and the surrounding area. Kiefer at least used paper, however, he also used the acrylic paint and painted on top of my white roll top wooden desk so it’s now got blue outlines where he painted our welcome home sign and got out of the lines onto the desk. Oh, and all the brushes they used were left in the paint. 
  • Kiefer climbed up to the highest shelf in Daddy-O’s closet to get down some other items intentionally put away
  • They found an old coin collection of mine and I keep finding my old silver dollars from my grandfather around the house. I’m not sure where they found it or how high they had to climb to get it down.
  • Kiefer was having a hard time sleeping each night and we heard he woke up Nana about 3 times a night each night due to his “nightmares”
  • We heard a report from Nana that by Thursday, sleep deprived, worn out and nearly pushed to the edge – she had a moment where she actually raised her voice because the boyz weren’t helping straighten up the house. And we heard maybe another time after they’d been beating up on each other. (!)  She apologized later and joked they were at “Grandma Boot Camp”… I felt validated that it happens to the best of us.
  • I’m sure there was more that transpired, but this is all we’ve been able to ascertain thus far.

BUT… on a good note, we were welcomed home with several sweet welcome home signs and notes and even a collage of sea shells on the front hall table and even given the risks and infractions, our vacation was still worth it and at least Nana didn’t have to take anyone to the ER! (perspective, right?!?)

A bit of a rough re-entry. Oh, and did I neglect to mention we got a fresh 8” of new snowfall? Maybe my dream was more providential than I realized?!
Sunset in Aruba

Another day in paradise!

Proof I stepped foot in Aruba and actually put my feet up for awhile!

Our last sunset

The welcome home sign and collage from Kiefer

The hand painted picture of the blue sky and sun from Kiefer, photo taken before I figured out where he painted it! 
A welcome sign from our tractor-loving Carter, too!

Dog Daze of Winter

It seems that boredom is the invention of creativity.  I once heard a wise mother of four boys, each in high school, tell me that the key to raising boys is to keep them bored. So they’ll want to get lost in a book or build something or be imaginative. Not allow them to play video games or detach from reality too much or too early. This has long been my philosophy. Why turn on the TV when we could instead put on a show of our own or have a dance party or bake something?  Sometimes, in the dead of winter though, when it’s too cold to go outside for days on end, this says easier than it is to do.  But it also helps that my boyz are in the habit of no TV (or at least little TV) so they don’t ask to watch it and they entertain themselves creatively most the time. Sometimes, TOO creatively.

One evening last week the younger boyz were playing in the basement while I was helping the older boyz with homework.  In between fraction flash cards and spelling words I had barely noticed that Griffin was getting dressed up as a puppy dog in Carter’s last year’s Halloween costume – complete with fluffy ears, gloves with paw prints and collar with a bell.  I vaguely remember zipping and velcro-ing and straightening his tail and then he was off to play in the basement with Fletcher.  A few moments later I heard a horrendous cry escalating up the stairs.  After strict instructions to play downstairs while we completed homework I asked, “Is someone bleeding?!” And the cry back returned “YES!”

“Oh no, what now!?” I thought to myself.  Griffin, still dressed as a puppy dog, has had a wiggly front tooth for the past several months and as he turned the corner there was a lot of blood and a loose tooth hanging from his muzzle and a worried look on his brow.  He had been playing tug of war as a puppy with Fletcher’s blankie and the winner had pulled his tooth out with it!  (Actually, both front teeth, but the other one’s not quite ready to come out yet – and Griffin wants to lose it at school because you get a commemorative tooth-shaped necklace from the school nurse when you lose a tooth at school!)  (Who can blame him!?)

Then the dog’s master rounds the corner, blankie in hand, saying, “Yea, it was time for that tooth to come out so I helped him!”

Isn’t that brotherly love in action?!

Woof Woof!
Here’s the tooth! I told him that happens to real puppies too!
For the Tooth Fairy!

For the memory books!

Fletcher “helped” 

Brotherly love!

Sweet on Saint Louis

Daddy-O and I went to an event in St. Louis last weekend where we didn’t know a soul when we arrived, but by the end of the evening I’d made a new friend and discovered a Soul Sister!  We were sitting diagonally across the table from each other and as we talked I learned that she had started a new business – a do-it-yourself custom cupcake shop.  We exchanged cards and were each grateful for the other at a crowded dinner party.  The next day was Valentine’s day and she was going to be working in her store – as it was a busy bakery day.  On our way out of town, we GPS’ed her shop and stopped in for a visit.  It was absolutely ADORABLE!  The center store in a 1950’s retro strip mall, each building with it’s own awning and unique fascade.  Sweetology is her business and she likens it to a build a bear shop or a pottery by you painting shop except instead of having another bear or hand painted ceramic creation to dust, you get to eat your creation! What a novel concept! It’s the only thing like it in the country and, in my opinion, it’s going to be in a town near you soon! There was a traditional bakery counter with dreamy confections chilling behind the glass, there was also a pot of chocolate swirling behind the counter in a magical centrifugal force that drew me in. She called it “Drinking Chocolate”  “You had me at chocolate,” I thought to myself as she poured me an expresso sized cup to savor.  The darling pink and green walls and old fashioned soda fountain decor was delightful, but the wall of decorative candies to top your cake, cupcakes or cookies were what made me feel like a kid in a candy store! (Sorry, couldn’t resist!)  I felt like Carter when he couldn’t decide which jibit to get for his crocs! There were candy footballs, helmets, crayons, balloons, bears – even a tiny hammer and nail set. You name it! Each made of sugar.  Absolutely darling! For the locals, you could stop in and decorate your cake and make an outing out of it. They had a rainbow of icing colors and even a photo booth to pose with your creation before you indulged. We chose the “to-go” route and got enough for the boyz to decorate at home. We took pictures too.  Then we indulged.  They tasted even better than they looked! Here’s a glimpse of our fun.  To savor your own, you’ll have to experience Sweetology for yourself! ENJOY!

Holding up our “Naked” Cupcakes… the “before” stage

Fletcher adding the first of many colors of icing upon his cupcake 

Too cute!

Carter posing with his creation

We’re sweet on Sweetology!

Many hands in the mix!

Griffin’s creation

Not easy to eat with just one front tooth!

This says it all!

Fletcher was getting his foot into it!

An artist!

Kiefer can’t believe how good they taste!

WOW! 

His teeth are blue!!

Carter ate most of his… he never really eats the icing

Then there’s Griffin who took a different approach! 
Fletcher’s weighed a ton by the time he was done!

So good you could eat it!

Jumbo Bozo Blow

So, in a  moment of weakness, against better judgement, because it was another ice cold, frigid day, I let the boyz get into another Christmas present that I had been holding back for a rainy day, or a snowy day, as the case may be.  It was a giant blow up toy –  Bozo The Clown. One of those old fashioned clown punching bags with the sand bag of weight in the bottom so you could hit it and it would bounce back up. His clown face taunting the hitter to “Just try and hit me again” and then he bounces back up again for another attempt, “Hit me with your best shot!” His bright red nose actually squeaks when you made a direct hit. Bonus!  It wasn’t intentional. The boyz actually happened upon it while we were down in the craft room. And before I knew it they were racing upstairs and out to the garage to use Daddy-O’s air compressor air pump in the garage to blow it up and within minutes the biggest smack down heavy weight championship had begun.  Jay Boyz: Zero, Bozo: at least 10.  Other fights broke out between the brothers about whose turn it was or whose gift it was.  After stern refereeing and sending opposing brothers to their corners, the newness wore off and they moved on to other distractions, thankfully.  It wasn’t until later that evening when Daddy-O and I were trying to leave for a grown up party, all dressed up and ready to go, giving last minute instructions to our favorite babysitter when we heard the Jumbo Bozo Blow from the basement.  The littlest, Fletcher, came upstairs explaining that it was Kiefer who had the last laugh. (Or something like that…) We rushed downstairs to witness the damage we had heard from above.  Kiefer was saying something in his high pitched “I didn’t do it, blame someone else so they don’t get me in trouble voice” that can only be understood by dogs and we quickly surmised that he must have picked up Bozo the clown from his head and swung him into the wall like a baseball bat – smashing a hole the size of a small child into the drywall of the basement.  We scolded, we laughed, we forgave and gave hugs, then we left. Remembering that thankfully, the gift givers had also given us a Lowes gift card along with the gifts for the boyz.  Perhaps they had a premonition?

“Hit me with your best shot!” (The Clown, not the wall, Kiefer!)

Direct hit! 

Kiefer delivered Bozo’s final blow!